Sunday, 30 August 2009

Weddings


There's just something about weddings. we planned our trip back to malaysia specially in time for one special wedding -my cousin's. i miss weddings. i miss the "kecohness", the voices of so many people getting involved with everything, i miss coming up with ideas for favors and such, i miss the smell of fresh flowers and new carpets.. i miss helping, i miss them all. although it can be a little bit too much at times, with wedding invites almost every week especially during school holidays (if you're back home). but after not attending a malay wedding for 4 years, you tend to miss it. it was certainly nice to be part of one. so just imagine how excited i was!


It was also our son's first malay wedding experience! a chance for him to meet everyone. i was very, VERY excited for him! we have loved meeting EVERYONE at the wedding. it was just a nice feeling to get to meet everyone again, the hugs and kisses, sharing a giggle and some laughters.. made it all worth it. it made me feel loved, very much loved.


The mother of the bride helped us a lot during our wedding. she really did. her presense, her laughter, her effort, her time, her smiles and her support meant a lot to me, my sister and most of all my mum. i've enjoyed the build up to my wedding so much thanks to her and the rest of the gang! i can never repay what she and the others did but will always be thankful for their neverending love and concern and help during that time. in fact, i've enjoyed the pre wedding days more than the wedding reception itself (although my nikah day was something really special!).


My cousin's wedding was a beautiful one. a wedding every girl would dream of! it was full of fresh flowers, you can even smell them from the road, the food was excellent, the crowd was a cheerful and happy one, the bridesmaids looked stunning in their dresses and the bride looked absolutely amazing, and most importantly, everyone was happy. any newlyweds would be lucky to have all these..

*****

Weddings- they can either bring people together, much closer then before, or in rare cases, they can pull you apart.

Weddings- you can really see people's true colours..

One example, just one example- mine. my wedding. it had brought one person closer to our family. and those close friends and familes got closer. and sometimes, it doesnt really go your way. you cant have it all. there will bound to be "kecik hati" and "merajuks".. some will not show their actions/reactions but some will.

My mother has never cried how she cried that day on my reception day. she didnt deserve it, and neither did i. but i suppose elders being elders, we'd still have to respect them. how did we deal with it? we just think of all the others who love and care about us, and concentrate on being happy with what we have, at that every moment. and who helped us during that time? these wonderful warm loving, sincere people, some whom are friends but i'm ever so proud to call them family...



I guess what i've learnt from this is sometimes with all the "kecohness", you have to just sit back and witness, appreciate and feel the love at that moment. that very moment. glad i've managed to capture some of those moments on camera! i'm really happy that my cousin's wedding went smoothly and everything went well.. we had a wonderful time with everybody and hope to be together again... soon...

I know its a long.. LONG way to go, but driving home from my cousin's beautiful union, i cant help but to think of my son's wedding. how will it be... will he get his way, or will we as parents get ours! i hope, and i really REALLY hope that he'll grow up knowing his roots, where he comes from. i hope he knows the meaning and the difference between adat and adab and most importantly i hope he respects it. both hardy and i are very sensible and practical people, i just hope it wont be too much of a headache! and like most parents, we hope and pray our kids will marry the one person, who will love him and treasure him with all her heart and they will be very happy and be blessed with all the good things in life.

Dont you just love weddings?!

5 comments:

K. Maz said...

Zaza:
It looks like Aidan was the center of attention that day!! How can't he not be? I am telling you he is going to be a heart breaker one day!

Beautiful bride and beautiful pictures. Thanks for sharing.

K. Maz

Wiz said...

Such a beautiful wedding Zaza! The fresh flowers wow, I gaped through the whole entry. The colours of the flowers remind me of you and your crafts. YOur cousins and you look so much alike. Hope you had a memorable trip home, one which would leave you that warm fuzzy feeling every time you are reminded of it.

Mme Doole said...

alaaa aidan sayang dah kurus! mama awak mmg tau suka verangans camtu hahhahha jgn marah nnt kene jual!! :p

comey_lote said...

I HEART wedding. This coming 2nd Shawal will be a wedding in my family too. It's my brother in law's.

It's been a long long time I had not peek at your blog! Aidan is now taller and more handsome!
Salam ramadhan and Selamat hari raya in advance Zaza!

Anonymous said...

well said! As usual za, such a nice piece to read. You should be writing for magazine or paper column. Or best, your very own Dear Zaza column.

from the photo, looks like a lovely wedding. the flowers are gorgeous. bride cantik! may they have a blessed life...and live happily ever after.

besar da aidan. sure penuh pipi ngan kisses!

always, yaya